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Warning – This might read like a rant from a guy who has been in the business of developing people and leaders for a long time. While there might be a rant tone to what follows, the points I hope to make are important and timeless. I’m writing it to you personally – I hope that you rethink your personal perspective on the topic. And I am writing this to organizations to help them rethink their beliefs and approaches to what up-until-now have been called “soft skills.”
If you are wondering about the genesis of the term “soft skills,” it was coined by the U.S. Army. According to Wikipedia, in a formal training manual in 1972, soft skills were defined as “important job-related skills that involve little or no interaction with machines and whose application on the job is quite generalized.”
By my estimation, people started discounting the term within a year or two. 😊
Seriously, while I understand why the Army chose the term “soft” to define this bucket of skills, the term makes it easy for people to downplay or discount them.
There are several reasons why, including:
- “Soft” isn’t typically a word seen as a positive – unless you are talking about a teddy bear, your cat’s fur, or your new socks.
- “Soft” skills are less tangible and measurable, making it easier to discount them.
- Most of these skills are things we have done in our lives – maybe not well – because we have/can do them. This makes it easy to downplay the importance of improving them.
- They can be considered as traits rather than skills. If you feel like some people are naturally better listeners, it follows that these are genetic gifts rather than skills we can learn.
None of these perspectives are helpful when thinking about skills like communication, conflict resolution, influence, relationship and trust building, collaboration, empathy, decision-making, and more.
Why? Because while technical skills are important, and often are the baseline needed to do work, it is this list of skills that differentiate one person from another.
Would you rather have a solid technical performer who excelled in the skills above, or a person who is average in those skills but a technical whiz? Chances are, in 95% of roles, you would take the first person. While you can find notable exceptions of highly skilled technical experts who succeeded without many of these skills – they are rare and are notable simply because this combination isn’t the common, normal or the best chance to achieve greater impact.
So, what is the solution?
Let’s start by not calling them soft skills. Let’s call them what they are – human skills.
These skills are the things that tend to make us better leaders, and more effective human beings. If the needs of jobs are changing, these human skills are more transferable and less likely to leave anyone obsolete. And further, in a world of AI – knowing and being clear on the skills that AI can’t replace or enhance is a competitive advantage for both individuals and organizations. When you improve your human skills, you become more valuable, flexible, and move closer to your potential.
Calling them human skills changes the way we think about them. It elevates their value, leaves them less likely to be compared negatively to an alternative (unlike soft vs hard), and reframes them in a positive and more accurate light.
So, for everyone’s benefit, call them human skills – because that is exactly what they are.
One of the ways you can consciously work on your human skills is by joining us for Virtual LeaderCon 2025, Sept 22-25. During this free event you can learn from and with the experts and thought leaders who join me. Perhaps more importantly, you will be a part of an engaged group of learners (like you) to explore and build your human skills. We’ll bring the experts, the platform and process. You bring your time and desire, and watch amazing things happen.