Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Long-Distance Leadership

Trust, Risk, and Remote Teams

Trust, Risk, and Remote TeamsOne of the major tenets of this blog is that leading and working in remote teams isn’t intrinsically more difficult than working together, but it is different. So, we have to acknowledge and address those differences if we’re going to be successful. If we began listing the differences, the top would probably be the subject of trust, risk, and remote teams. Successfully building trust in our work relationships is a critical skill for remote leaders.

Suzanne Edinger is a researcher and assistant professor of Organisational Behavior at Nottingham University Business School. She has a particular focus on building social capital in teams and companies. We conducted an interview that produced so much good material, we can’t wait to share!

In this interview, we look at the effects of working in isolation from your teammates and what practical steps a leader can and should take to address them. She addresses a concept that had never occurred to me: the role risk plays in building or damaging team trust.

What are the long-term effects of working in isolation from each other?

Two of the most important processes in teamwork are communication and trust. Research has demonstrated that if team members don’t trust one another and don’t have effective paths of communication, their teams will be ineffective. These competencies are more difficult to develop in virtual situations, especially if team members are isolated from one another either geographically or technologically.

How does this impact trust?

Trust develops over time and is based on repeated interactions with another individual. As we see how a person responds in different situations, we assess their relative level of trustworthiness. This is a highly individualized process and can be culturally specific, which means building trust becomes more difficult as team diversity increases.

Two conditions are necessary for building trust: risk and interdependence. Without some level of risk, there is no need for trust. However, too much risk can be detrimental. For example, if the project the virtual team is assigned is make-or-break for most of the members on the team, the personal risk for each member is too high and building trust will be very difficult. Some level of interdependence of work is also necessary for trust building. Interdependence can be based on the task, the outcomes of the project, and/or the resources associated with the project.

Which leads us to communication. How does risk impact communication in a remote environment?

Communication is also vitally important in virtual teams, and more difficult to maintain when members are isolated from one another. Without good communication, conflicts and resentment build. Face-to-face team members often see one another on a daily basis, even when their teams are not meeting.

This proximity leads to ‘water-cooler’ conversations related to the project and the opportunity to bounce ideas off one another outside the context of a formal meeting. Virtual team members need to be encouraged to do the same things. Pick up the phone and call another team member to discuss a potential idea.

Virtual teams are often less efficient than their face-to-face counterparts because team members have gone in different directions between meetings and time has been invested in work that won’t be used by the team. Additionally, don’t underestimate the importance of non-verbal communication. In some cultures, this is much more important than the words a person says. Assessing non-verbal cues can be very challenging in virtual teams.

So what tools or skills should managers of traditional teams develop or learn in order to create trust and good communication in remote teams?

Lead by example. We know that one way individuals learn to behave at work is by copying the beaviours of their manager and other senior staff members. Demonstrate to your team that sharing information and trusting one another are “the way things are done here”. Provide them with strong examples to emulate

Encourage open communication. Ensure that your team meets regularly enough to maintain open lines of communication. Consider asking them to complete team contracts. These set out the norms expected of all team members, including honest and meaningful communication. Be clear that withholding information is not acceptable behavior.

Limit multitasking in meetings. Because everyone isn’t gathered together, and we cant’ see each other, we often have the tendency to work on to-do lists rather than devote full attention to the meeting and our teammates. This has a detrimental effect on trust. Make it clear that working off-task won’t be tolerated.

Spend time on team process and relationships. Make sure all team members know what is expected of them, and why they’re involved. This helps overcome the tendency to multitask and keep people engaged.

Increase appreciation. Increase the amount of recognition you give team members. Express empathy by using active listening without judgement and accept different opinions openly.

Don’t assume silence means agreement. Silence can have a number of causes; misunderstanding, lack of a safe environment, fear of risk taking, and differences in power. It might also mean they agree, but if you don’t ask, you won’t know.

Good relationships don’t happen organically in a remote environment: as a remote leader, you must take the initiative to develop trust between you and your team, as well as staying mindful of your team’s relationships with each other.

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Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Long-Distance Leadership, Productivity

What Do You Need for a Virtual Meeting?

One question from remote leaders we often encounter here at The Remote Leadership Institute: What do you need for a virtual meeting?  While it’s a mix of technology, there are other factors that go into conducting an effective and productive virtual meeting. Join Wayne, as he explains the tools and techniques that answer this commonly asked question.

https://youtu.be/CbZClouBiS0?rel=0&showinfo=0

Whether you work remotely or lead a team of both in-house and remote employees, we know you encounter unique challenges. We’ve created The Remote Leadership Institute just for you; this site includes free resources to assist you in the remote workplace, as well as interactive learning webinars, individual workshops, and more!

Check us out for more info by clicking here!

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Dealing with App Fatigue

Dealing with App FatigueBy my (admittedly non-scientific) count, I just received my 1,034th invitation to try a new app. This recent gizmo is “guaranteed to increase team collaboration and improve communication”. Part of this is my own fault for visiting so many blogs and websites doing research for this blog (it’s all you people’s fault. I hope you appreciate it – and yes that sounded just like my mother). But I’m feeling overwhelmed and burned out on technology, and I suspect many of you are as well. So, let’s delve in to dealing with App Fatigue.

Let’s start by acknowledging the essential paradox of working remotely:

Communication and relationship building is essential to a successful remote team, and it can be accomplished best through the purposeful choice and effective use of good technology. Hence the onslaught of tools designed to solve communication challenges.

All the technology in the world won’t help your team if you and your team aren’t psychologically and socially prepared to communicate and take advantage of the tools at hand. Thus, most technology (either full blown software or productivity apps) doesn’t accomplish its appointed tasks and gets labeled a waste of time and/or money.

The problem with most of these apps (and technology in general) isn’t whether or not they “work”. Most do more or less exactly what they promise, assuming one uses them correctly and can get the entire team on board. The problem seems to be getting people to adopt them and build them into the way they work every day.

Why don’t people adopt new technology more quickly? As you look at this list, ask yourself what filters you personally use to determine whether to use something or not:

Can I state in one sentence how this tool will make my job easier/faster/better? Put simply, we are really good at adopting tools that solve obvious problems, and even better at ignoring technology for its own sake. If we have a defined problem, and this is a clearly defined solution, we tend to look at it more closely with an eye to meeting our challenges.

Does it look or feel like something we’re already using? Very few people look forward to learning a new process or working differently than they do now. We gravitate towards those things we’re familiar with, assuming there will be less of a learning curve. This is why your team will is more likely to take a chance on something built into Outlook or Salesforce than use something stand-alone. It’s also why truly revolutionary tech has a hard time breaking in, even though it’s “better” than what’s out there.

Is anyone else using it? Very few people are comfortable being “first adopters”. Even if something looks like it will fix our problem, we want to know who else has used it, and what their experience has been. If it’s someone we know or trust that evidence gets greater weight than all the white papers and case studies sales folks throw at us.

How will we learn it, and can we get help? While there are more and more young people entering the workforce, and their comfort with technology is usually higher than that of their managers and older peers, the fact remains that tech support, training, and just the ability to get answers when we need them remains a major factor when you try to roll out a tool to your team.

If people think they’ll be left to figure it out on their own, there will be little enthusiasm for adoption. This applies double to the “hours of video tutorials” available on the tool’s website. People want to ask a question, get answers, and get back to work. Spending a lot of valuable work time learning a “shortcut” doesn’t feel like a good investment.

So before either cursing your people as Luddites, or chasing every shiny new app that claims it will solve your problem, you need to take a deep breath and conduct a simple assessment. Here’s what you need to ask yourself and your team:

  • What is working – and not working – currently? Is communication flowing clearly?
  • Once you identify the challenges, ask yourself and your team: is this a problem technology can solve, or do we have to change our mental thought processes or behavior?
  • What existing technology do we have now? Will it solve our problem if we use it better (or at all) or do we really need an entirely new solution?

Only when you are satisfied you and your team are doing all you can, as well as you can, and that your current technology isn’t sufficient, is it time to actively seek other solutions.

I’m not saying these tools don’t work, but if we’re too burnt out to evaluate them properly we’ll never really know for sure.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Wayne TurmelWayne Turmel

W. Wayne Turmel is a speaker, writer and corporate drone who lives in Chicago Il. He is the founder and president of Greatwebmeetings.com, a co-founder of The Remote Leadership Institute and the author of Meet Like you Mean it, a book that helps virtual and remote teams collaborate more effectively.

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Remarkable TV: Understanding the Styles of Those You Work With

Whether it was colors or animals or letters, you’ve likely taken a behavioral style test or tool at one point or another. And while this is the first step to better communications, it has to go beyond “labeling” to be truly useful. Check out today’s video to learn more.

Tweet it out:Don’t try to understand someone’s style so you can label them but so you can communicate more effectively with them. @KevinEikenberry

From this Episode:

  • Check out our free DISC Personality Test here.
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4 Ways to Improve Your Communication

meeting-1237083If you want to become more effective as a leader, more successful in meetings, or more confident while resolving conflicts, become a better communicator.

On the high end of the communication skill spectrum, you find that great leaders — like Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill and Martin Luther King, Jr — are often great communicators. On the low-end, research indicates that poor communication skills can contribute to family disputes escalating to domestic violence.

Evidence from research, experience and anecdotal observation points to higher levels of success and satisfaction and lower levels of stress and frustration as your communication skills improve.

With that backdrop, here are four ways you can improve almost all of your communications (presented roughly in the order I suggest you follow):

1.  Learn how other people might hear, see or interpret your messages

One concept that often surfaces in my communication workshops, is that the word “communication” comes from the Latin word that also gives us the English word “common.” This observation implies that communication makes ideas, thoughts and concepts commonly understood — even if not agreed upon —  between two or more people.

In order to make ideas common, it becomes important to understand both sides of the communication. You need to understand both how your idea sounds to the other person and what the other person means with the words they use. What you say might mean something other than what you intend to the other person. What the other person says might mean, to them, something other than what you hear.

Long-time readers of my blog know that I use and recommend the DISC model as one tool for accomplishing this step. There are factors to consider other than communication style (e.g., culture, gender, age, etc.). Still, it’s a great place to start.

The goal of this “step” is to get a clear picture of how the differences between you and the other person might affect your communication efforts.

2.  “Observe” your perspective

In the interest of full disclosure, I admit that I have not yet mastered this concept. It’s really hard to do, and I’m not sure that any of us will ever truly perfect it. It’s a good goal nonetheless.

Here’s the idea, learn to step back from your first interpretation of a statement or behavior and look for how your perspective, or filter, might be affecting your response. As you develop this skill, the next two steps become easier to do.

3.  Listen actively

If the goal is to make an idea common, you must work to understand the other person’s thinking before you can truly communicate. Active listening involves much more than just hearing the words. It involves total focus on what the other person is attempting to communicate.

4.  Swap feedback during the communication process

It’s easy to say something and assume that the other person heard what you meant. It’s also easy to hear something and to assume that you understood what the other person meant. Until you confirm mutual understanding, you will be operating on assumptions and interpretations rather than on facts.

Paraphrase what you think you heard or ask questions to confirm your understanding of one another. For example, “Here is what I think you are saying … Is that correct?”

Frankly, communication can be difficult. We do it virtually every day, and we often do not communicate as clearly as we think or intend. One of my favorite quotes on communication is by George Bernard Shaw: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

I find that I have to frequently remind myself of key communication concepts in order to apply them with any consistency. For the next week, I encourage you to consciously focus on these four ways to improve your communication, and watch the positive difference doing so will make in reducing the amount of confusion, misunderstandings, stress and frustration you experience.

 

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Five Keys to Communicating Remotely

January 10 Blog Post 3Never has the desire to and need to communicate with people distant from us been more pressing or important than it is today. And while communication is complex enough to start with, when we are doing it at a distance, even more barriers arise.

Increasingly teams are working in different locations and in different time zones; and while there are productivity advantages that can come from that fact, if we don’t get the communication right, those productivity advantages can be quickly lost, and the advantages can become liabilities.

If you want to increase the effectiveness of your communication with people who are remote from you, start with these five ideas.

Choose your tool wisely. Years ago your tool choices were simple. First there was a letter, then a telegraph and a phone. Now it seems there are more new options than that each week! The tool we use to communicate – whether email, a text, an instant message, a phone call, using our web cams, or whatever – has an impact on the outcome we will get. Each of these tools have a place and a purpose. When you want to communicate with others successfully, pick your tool based on your message and your audience. Yes, think about what they prefer, but don’t put their preference above what will most help both succeed in getting complete communication.

Focus on the message received. Communication, whether at a distance or not, is a matter of message sent and message received. The best communicators focus more energy and how they get their message received. This is even harder when you are distant from the person you are communicating with. None of the tools at your disposal are quite as good as face-to-face communication, as some level of fidelity and effectiveness is lost with each choice. When you put your focus on getting your message received, you put more of your focus on the other person, and less on yourself. This will always get you better results, especially when you can’t be face-to-face.

Listen more carefully. Listening is hard enough when you are in the same room with someone. When you aren’t, the number of distractions, and the pull of those distractions is even greater. (Besides they can’t tell if you are checking email while you are on the phone, can they? Well, if you can tell when they are, guess what – so can they!) You will have more effective communication when you listen. Be diligent at listening more closely, whether to the intention in an email, or the message in a phone call.

Think about more than your message. When communication between two people is strong, more than a message is transferred; relationships grow and trust is built. (Tweet that!) Time spent on the relationship with a remote person will always pay dividends. So make sure that you take time in your communication to do more than “get your message across” but also to invest time building the relationship.

Be more intentional. In some ways this point is a summary of the other four; but it is too important to omit. If you want to create more effective communication with others, especially when they aren’t down the hallway, think about your message, the other person and what successful communication looks like and will mean. When you take a bit more time upfront, you will get better communication results.

Two Final Notes

While I have written about these in the context of business, these ideas apply to family and friends who are remote from you too – perhaps one of the ideas above can make a difference for you in that arena too.

If you are looking to build your skills in working and leading remotely, we have several remotely delivered learning experiences that can help. You can see them and learn more here.

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Two Questions to Ask Before Communicating

When there’s someone working remotely on your team (whether it’s full-time or just once a week), there are two questions to ask before communicating. And these critical questions can save you from any miscommunications that could disrupt your team’s synergy…

WATCH: Two Questions to Ask Before Communicating

Are you a remote leader? Visit our website for more resources, including our popular Remote Leadership Certificate Series. These interactive sessions are valuable for any remote worker! For more information about those sessions, click here.

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Why I Love Not Hearing From My Remote Team Often

I am a sociable pWhy I love not hearing from my remote team oftenerson; I like going for dinner and drinks with friends, going to parties, and making new connections. I have good relationships with many people all over the world. But when I’m not hearing from my remote team often, it’s great.

This may seem surprising. Most of the time, the advice for engaging with telecommuters is to over-communicate.

Some say, “We don’t want people working from home to feel isolated, so we need to check in more often.”

Others are fearful, explaining, “Our office workers may feel contempt toward remote workers, so we need to get them talking to each other.”

While these aren’t terrible suggestions, they do miss the point of remote work. It’s right there in the term I just used: the purpose of remote work is to get work done.

Much of the communication we do in traditional work environments is out of convenience. It’s easier to yell over a cubicle wall than it is to look something up yourself. We can quickly pull people together for an impromptu meeting by grabbing them at their desks. Conversations or email threads can go on for days, covering the same topics repeatedly, because there’s no urge to be precise when you can just as easily get clarification.

However, communicating with remote employees requires clarity and precision; circling back to confirm something takes more effort. (It’s even harder when the hours they work don’t match up to our own.) On-site teams and remote workers often get into long exchanges to get answers or resolve problems. It’s bad in person, and it’s worse when people have to do it at a distance. It’s good to follow-up when you’re not sure, but a better question might be: why weren’t you sure in the first place?

In our firm, remote workers get things done because they have exceptionally clear instructions. They know what’s expected of them, and they know what the company needs to move forward. That means I don’t hear from them unless there is a problem. Since we’ve been working together a long time, there is almost never a problem! Work gets completed, and the emails are few and far between.

Some people might think this sounds like a lonely existence for our remote team. The truth is quite the opposite.

Since we don’t spend much of our social capital at work, they have more energy in their personal lives to be sociable with their friends and families. And that’s really how it should be, since these people selected us because they like the work and were selected by us because they are good at it. We didn’t choose them to be our friends, and while it’s fine if that happens, it’s fine if it doesn’t, too.

I personally love that I don’t hear from our remote team that often. What I also love is that we’ve found the right people to get the work done, and that they enjoy doing it. It’s a great relationship, but it’s based on work and mutual respect, not on hours and hours of long conversations.

And isn’t work and mutual respect what all of us really want at the modern organization anyway?

About the Author:

Robby SlaughterRobby Slaughter is a workflow and productivity expert. Robby runs a business improvement consulting company. His focus is helping organizations and individuals to become more efficient, more effective and more satisfied at work. Robby is a regular contributor in several regional magazines and has been interviewed by national publications such as the Wall Street Journal. His latest book is The Unbeatable Recipe for Networking Events. You can read more and see a complete list of books here.

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Storytelling Makes the Difference

Storytelling-makes-the-differenceAs leaders, we frequently encounter challenges when conveying information to our teams, especially when our bosses delegate the messenger role to us and expect successful understanding and results. Often, it’s quite the opposite: communicating data ends with your remote team asking endless questions. In order to successfully communicate as a remote leader, we must learn that storytelling makes the difference when relaying data and other information.

Years ago, I was managing a team of technical instructors; each individual was a master of specific technologies that I barely understood. As you can imagine, it was tough for me to evaluate them, since half the time I had no idea what they were talking about. One thing that I always looked for and evaluated was their ability to use storytelling or analogies any audience could relate to and understand.

My favorite example was back in the days when dinosaurs (and Windows 95) ruled the earth. The class was struggling with the difference between Windows and DOS (If you weren’t alive during this era, count your blessings!)  Each instructor had their own way of explaining it with tech jargon, usually received with blank stares and furrowed brows from the audience. Fortunately, one trainer, had a brilliant analogy.

“Ever go through the drive-through at McDonalds?” he asked. “Windows is when you pull up to the speaker, give your order, and by the time you get to the window, your order is there. DOS is all the stuff going on in the kitchen that you usually don’t care about as long as it gets your order to the window.” Suddenly, it seemed as if I saw light bulbs flare up above the learners’ heads.

If you think that’s too ancient an example, let’s take a look at something a lot of us have trouble getting used to: using SharePoint or similar tools. If you Google, “What is SharePoint?” this is what you’ll find:

SharePoint is a web application platform in the Microsoft Office server suite. Launched in 2001, SharePoint combines various functions which are traditionally separate applicationsintranetextranet, content management, document managementpersonal cloudenterprise social networkingenterprise search, and business intelligence SharePoint servers have traditionally been deployed for internal use in mid-size businesses and large departments alongside Microsoft ExchangeSkype for Business, and Office Web Apps.” (Ready to sign up yet?)

Let’s see how one of our clients explained it to her team: “You know how you spend fifteen minutes before every meeting re-sending documents to people you’ve already sent? How would you like to never have to do that again?”

What she did, and good leaders do, is put complex information into easily understandable language for mere mortals.

Good leaders learn how to:

  • Create analogies. “________ is like a __________.”
  • Give examples people can relate to. “If you’ve ever tried to ______, this will let you _________.”
  • Relate it to something they already know to reduce the threat of change. “In WebEx, they call it sharing applications. In Skype for Business, it’s called Sharing Programs, but both serve the same function.”

A key skill for managers, whether their teams are remote, co-located or a hybrid of the two, is the ability to translate complex information into simple language for any audience.

Storytelling makes the difference — whether you’re relaying information to one team member or an entire department – and will foster your growth as a successful, effective leader.

Wayne TurmelAbout the Author:

Wayne Turmel is the founder and president of GreatWebMeetings.com. For 20 years he’s been obsessed with helping managers communicate more effectively with their teams, bosses and customers. Wayne is the author of several books that demystify communicating through technology includingMeet Like You Mean It- a Leader’s Guide to Painless & Productive Virtual Meetings, 10 Steps to Successful Virtual Presentations and 6 Weeks to a Great Webinar. His work appears frequently in Management-Issues.com. Marshall Goldsmith calls him “one of the unique voices to listen to in the virtual workplace”. He works with organizations around the world to help people use technology to lead people and projects and build productive human connections in an increasingly remote work environment.

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Success! 7 Ways Knowing Your Communication Style Will Help You Be More Successful

January 10 Blog Post 3You may have completed some sort of communication style assessment in your life. It might have been called personality styles or behavioral styles; you might have seen it as a test, an inventory, or labeled it something else. If so, you were assigned a color, animal, a letter, a series of letters or some other way to define your “type” or “style.”

There are many of these types of assessments, and from my perspective, all of them can be helpful. In our company and with our clients we use DISC (here is a link to a free assessment if you have not taken one, or want to take one now). This article though, won’t talk about DISC specifically, but how to use your results and knowledge from any of these tools to achieve greater success and results for yourself.

Fundamentally these tools give us deeper insight into ourselves. While this is of value (and I will give you some reasons why in a minute), the greater value of these tools isn’t to satisfy our personal curiosity, but rather to get better results with and through other people.

Stated another way, when we begin to think about how we can use these tools to communicate more clearly and influence more effectively, the value they can have to our future success is pretty obvious.

Here then, as promised by the title, are seven ways knowing this information can help you be more successful – specifically four about you and three about other people.

About You

As you begin to understand your style and the traits associated with it, you gain some potentially huge insights; including:

A New Personal Perspective. Often the assessment results will help you understand yourself in a new way; explaining many things about your behavior. This response is one reason most of us love doing these assessments! When we begin to understand our style, we get a new perspective about ourselves and how others view us.

A Chance to See Some Blind Spots. There is no such thing as the perfect style or type. And so your style brings some great advantages, and some blind spots too. Having the framework that the assessment gives you helps you see some of your blind spots. These are things that others might see easily (and may be sources of communication challenges) that you aren’t even aware of.

A Way to Recognize Your Strengths. Each style brings with it enormous strengths – and the truth is that many people don’t recognize their strengths, or don’t recognizes those tendencies as strengths. They are strengths! You can use your assessment results to understand when and how you can be most effective and productive in a variety of situations. Knowing this can lead you to greater success with less effort.

A Way to See the Risks of Over-Relying on a Strength. Strengths are great, but when they are overplayed, they become weaknesses. Once we are aware of our tendencies, as shown by the assessment results, we are better able to notice when a strength becomes a weakness – and can therefore avoid those habits.

About Others

Once you begin to understand your style as well as some other styles that aren’t your natural tendencies, you can be better equipped to communicate and work with others more effectively. Here are three initial advantages you can gain.

See Tendencies in Others. Your assessment results will tell you much about you – but they will also help you understand the other styles too. To get the most from the whole exercise, spend at least as much time understanding the other styles as understanding your own. Why? Because you are communicating with and influencing others, not yourself!

Have a Framework to Adjust Your Approach. The Assessment tool, whichever one you use, gives you a framework to understand human behavior in new ways. And since you are interacting with others (who don’t all share your tendencies), you have some guidelines and ideas to more effectively adjust your approach to better match theirs. This may seem like a lot of work (it is), but if you want to be a more effective communicator and influencer, this is at the heart of your success.

Help You Value Others More. Too often the outcome of a team or organization taking an assessment is that people simply begin to label other people based on their style. While there is value in understanding the style of others, the labeling doesn’t help as much as you might think. Rather, use the understanding of other styles to help you see the value that everyone can bring; especially if you help them live that value rather than trying to get them to confirm to your style.

Get your own free DISC Assessment, a basic report of results (or a much more detailed assessment for a small investment), at DISC Personality Testing.

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