Leadership, Personal & Professional Development, Teamwork & Collaboration

Five Powers of Coaching

Spiderman, Wonder Woman and Superman all had super powers; they had special skills that allowed them to be super heroes.

Bulls EyeThey had great powers given to them at birth that made them special. Generally speaking, they didn’t have to develop those powers, they just had them. We too were born with tremendous skills, but unlike like our comic book and big screen heroes, we have to work to understand and develop those powers.

Because they are fictional characters, it might seem easier for them. We on the other hand can’t become “Super”, “Outstanding” or even “Remarkable” in any phase of our lives, as speakers, teachers, parents, singers, ballplayers, < insert anything you want >, or leaders without help or coaching.

Our “Super Powers” can only develop with help; to reach our potential we can’t do it ourselves. Here are five powers coaching gives you to help you unleash your own potential and become the best you can be. You might even say they could be your super powers.

The Power of Focus. Having a coach can help you stay focused. Great coaches will help you determine your goals (or understand them if they already exist), and then help you stay focused on achieving those goals, regardless if they are results goals or developmental goals. Focus is critical to top performance, having a coach is perhaps the best way to increase this power.

The Power of Perspective. The best performers in any field want to know both their strengths and weaknesses, and they know that they don’t see what others see. Most people don’t accurately see their strengths, or their weaknesses, and a coach can offer that perspective, help you keep those insights in mind, and help you use those perspectives to create greater results.

The Power of Feedback. Beyond knowing your strengths and weaknesses, you need to know how you are doing. Are you getting better? By how much? Is the improvement fast enough? What are you missing? These, and a hundred other questions, can be answered with the help of a coach. Coaches are in a position to give you feedback, and great coaches give that feedback timely, wisely and skillfully to help you get the most from your experiences.

The Power of Accountability. If you are serious about your performance and improving, you must hold yourself accountable for your actions, thoughts, habits, choices and results. While some are more capable of this than others, when you have a partner who cares about you and wants you to succeed, they can help hold you accountable. This is one of the biggest powers a coach offers you.

The Power of Synergy. Have you noticed that a team can achieve more than an individual? Do you believe in synergy? Far too often people think about their own performance and learning as a self-help project – they want to take full responsibility for their improvement. While it is true that in the end, you must take the actions and do the work of learning and improving your performance, having someone “on your team” will make a big difference. The best coaches hold you responsible, but are “on your team” and help you move forward faster through the power of synergy.

Your question at this point might be, “must this be a ‘formal’ coaching relationship or can it be informal?” The answer is two-fold and important.

First, there are a variety of types of coaching and coaches, both formal and informal, that can give you these powers and help you. And, if you are truly serious about reaching your potential, you must find formal coaching relationships with people who can help you reach for your very best.

As a final thought, while this article has focused on the power you get from being coached, recognize that when you act as a coach, mentor or advisor to others, you not only help them develop, but gain some of these benefits for yourself as well.

Potential Pointer: The top performers in any endeavor have coaches to help them maintain their performance and continue to improve. The very best both receive coaching and gain even more by coaching others as well.

Remarkable leaders realize the power of coaching – both for themselves and those they lead. To get a deeper understanding of the power of coaching – and to learn from world class coaches from a variety of disciplines – join us for the next episode of RemarkableTV: Coach and Be Coached. It’s fr/ee and tips off at 11am ET on March 16. You can learn more and register now!

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Do We Nurture or Build Relationships?

Members of the Remarkable Leadership Learning Systemare focusing on the skill of Nurturing Relationships all this month.  In our teleseminar on Monday I explored differences between the words building and nurturing and why those differences matter when thinking aobut relationships, especially as a leader.

When we build something we form or construct or assemble it.  When I think of these words I think of the assembly instructions that come with something you buy at the home improvement or toy store.

But when you nurture something, you support, encourage and help it to grow.  Here, I think plant or garden – and water, fertilizer, sunlight and more.

For me, I’d rather have someone nourish or feed (the root words of nurture) a relationship with me than to construct or assemble it.

Is this playing with words?  Perhaps a little.  But I believe the difference is real.  When we think about relationships as living and breathing organisms, rather than things, we will treat them differently; I believe better.

When we as leaders think about this difference, and take action on it, we will reap a harvest of better relationships – an important outcome in many ways.

What do you think?  How does this difference in language inform you about the ways you can strengthen your working relationships?

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Coach and Be Coached: Coaching to Achieve Remarkable Performance

This week’s Resource Recommendation – Coach and Be Coached: Coaching to Achieve Remarkable Performance – for Others and Yourself! A Remarkable TV Event

We’re are excited to announce that we are tipping off our next Remarkable TV event, Coach and Be Coached, on March 16 at 11am ET.

Remarkable TVFor 4+ hours I will be interviewing successful coaches and leaders from all walks of life with the expressed intent of helping you become a better coach to others and understanding why you need more coaching for yourself!

We’ll again be broadcasting via live streaming video from my office here at Remarkable House (similar to our Sweet 16 party last year). (Imagine the stories these walls will be able to tell after this event!)

March 16 is right smack in the middle of the madness of college basketball championships, so we have given the event a basketball theme. And while we will have at least one highly successful basketball coach in the line-up (I will announce our complete roster of special guests as soon as possible), you don’t have to be a basketball, or even a sports fan, to appreciate and benefit from Coach and Be Coached.

And, unlike a basketball game, you won’t just be watching, you can participate!

When you join us on “game day” you will be able to ask our guests questions, interact with The Kevin Eikenberry Group team, and lots more. Sometimes at basketball games the cheerleaders launch t-shirts into the stands. I guarantee we won’t be shooting anything at you (other than lots of great ideas), but there will be special offers for all participants and everyone will have the chance to win some very special gifts. (They might not look as good on you as a t-shirt, but they will be much more valuable to you!)

Our all-star lineup is still being recruited; however, I can tell you it includes:

This team of experts will be joined by highly successful athletic coaches and some other all-stars I can’t yet share with you. It’s going to be an action-packed, knowledge-packed, inspiration-filled event.

It’s also going to be fun with a capital F!

We hope you can stay play for the entire game, but even if you can only have a pick-up game here and there throughout the event, we’ll be here live, right on your computer, from 11am until at least 3pm ET on March 16.

Register now to grab your VIP, court-side seat – even if you aren’t sure if you can join us. All who register will receive periodic updates as the lineup changes and other special offers are added. Plus, you’ll guarantee locker-room access to extra content and information. It’s your all-access pass to this championship game, special offers after the event and much more.

We especially grateful to our event sponsors (with more to be announced soon) The Remarkable Leadership Learning System and Jossey-Bass Publishing.

We’re also are excited to announce a philanthropic partner for Coach and Be Coached, the good people and programs at Samaritan’s Feet. Samaritan’s Feet hopes to provide 10 million pairs of shoes to people in need over the next 10 years.

You don’t want to miss the game-changing information you’ll learn from our All-Star line-up. Grab your courtside seat right now so you don’t miss a thing!

Want to learn more? Here is the video I created describing the event.

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Seven Leadership Lessons from Great Basketball Coaches

The first thing I remember purchasing with my own money that I earned was a basketball.

Basketball GymAs a boy, when I wasn’t working on the farm, often I was shooting baskets. While my high school career stalled for a variety of reasons (being small, 5’9″, and having mononucleosis as a sophomore didn’t help!), I’ve always loved the game.

While I still love to pick up a ball, dribble and shoot, most of my focus now is on watching, especially college games.

Time spent watching and really observing these exciting games has gotten me thinking about the lessons we all can take from the paid leaders of these teams – the head coaches. Even if you’re not a basketball fan, I encourage you to read on because the lessons are powerful for everyone – fan and non-fan alike.

These seven lessons are reinforced for me by the best basketball coaches. Look for the lessons you can apply today.

Great coaches flex their system, but not their philosophy. All great coaches have a coaching philosophy. They know it takes skill in all phases of the game, but it’s their philosophy that informs their focus. Some coaches always have great rebounding teams; some focus on a fast break offense; some are defensive minded. Yet, if their current lineup gives them different strengths, they may flex their system or make adjustments to best take advantage of the current talent. Non-basketball leaders must do the same thing – focus on your core philosophy, yet be flexible in implementation based on the circumstances and talent on your team.

Great coaches measure performance. Of course, wins and losses are measured, but the best coaches measure far deeper than that. Assist to turnover ratios, number of offensive rebounds, number of steals, and free throw percentage in the last five minutes of games are just a few examples. What they can measure in their context is almost endless. Coaches who focus on rebounding will have deeper and more extensive rebounding measures that they follow. Those measures inform them on progress, development needs and more. The important lesson for us is that they measure those things that are important to winning, based on their philosophy. We must do the same if we want to achieve top performance.

Great coaches practice everything (in a variety of ways). Supervised practice for college basketball teams begins several weeks before games. And once the season begins teams still practice most every day (including having walk throughs and film sessions on game day). They practice fundamentals and simulate particular game situations, so players are prepared for every situation on the floor. Most leaders in organizations fall far short in this area. Are you taking or allowing time for walk throughs, practice and review of results? Are you allowing and helping people prepare for the tough situations that may occur on their jobs? If not, this is an opportunity area for you and those you lead.

Great coaches recognize and utilize passion and enthusiasm. Have you ever seen a really disengaged basketball coach? Like non-athletic leaders, different coaches have different personalities, and therefore their passions and enthusiasm may manifest differently, but they all show passion – typically so plainly that even the last person in the arena knows how the coach feels from moment to moment. They all are enthusiastic, and they all support and extend the passion and enthusiasm of their teams. Are you doing the same?

Great coaches are products of their coaches. Watch college basketball for long and you will hear about “coaching trees.” This coach coached under that guy, who actually played for coach X. Coaches obviously benefit from a network of past bosses (a lesson for us), but the best also regularly credit their former coaches and mentors in helping to develop their skills and philosophies. Generally speaking, I’m not sure most leaders are as consciously aware of what they have learned from their former bosses. There are two lessons here. Make it a priority to learn from the best, and reflect and recognize what lessons and principles you have learned from others that you can apply for yourself as a leader. And, give credit to your coaches as often as you can!)

Great coaches define their team broadly. The best coaches want their players to succeed both on and off the court. The best coaches start or extend these “coaching trees” by developing their assistant coaches. The best college coaches recognize the role they play as a part of the larger organization (the college or university in their cases). Leaders can learn from this example as well. When you define your role broadly you allow yourself to have greater impact and more overall success.

Great coaches coach! They aren’t just managers or leaders. They actually coach! They recognize that an important part of their job is to develop others and help them reach their potential. Perhaps they have an advantage because their job title is coach. Your title may not remind you of this priority every day (and you may say you have other priorities). However, if you look closely at the other everyday tasks of a head coach you will find many of the same tasks and distractions you face, yet the best “coaches” don’t stop coaching. The best “leaders” shouldn’t either.

Potential Pointer: Whether you love the game or have never dribbled the ball, the lessons from great basketball coaches are many. The seven sited in this article are just a start. At the heart of each is that these leaders recognize that part of their job, just like every leader, is to coach their team to higher performance.

Remarkable leaders, whether sports fans or not, can learn much from successful leaders and coaches in other areas of life! Many leaders from around the world are consciously learning and building their skills by participating in The Remarkable Leadership Learning System – a one skill at a time, one month at a time approach to becoming a more confident and successful leader. Get $748.25 worth of leadership development materials including two complimentary months of that unique system today as part of Kevin Eikenberry’s Most Remarkable Free Leadership Gift Ever.

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Defining Leadership in Six Words

Yesterday I had the chance to speak with a group of aspiring leaders – high school freshmen from west central Indiana.  Early in my session I asked them to write a definition or description of leadership in exactly six words.  After they had done that individually, I split them into 3 teams to share their thoughts and create one six word description.  The video that follows gives their answers, and a small part of my followup commentary.

I think you will find their thoughts instructive for all of us, and while message was for them, it is really for all of us too.

This session was a part of a program of the HOBY organization – the Hugh O’Brian Youth Leadershiporganization.  While I have heard of this organization and its good work for many years, this was my first direct experience with it.  If you are looking for a way to give back some of what you have learned as a leader, and love kids, I’d encourage you to see how you might be able to engage with HOBY.

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Coaching Matters

I promise there are valuable messages in this post – bear with the first couple of paragraphs, ok?

It is after midnight on Wednesday.  I’m sitting at my kitchen table writing this blog post in part, because I can’t sleep.  It is rare that I can’t sleep when I choose to.  Tonight (well, this morning) it is because I am kinda sick.  Sick enough that I am home, rather than being in a hotel bed in a Marriott hotel in Baltimore, Maryland.

If I hadn’t decided in the big picture I was too sick (I hate that word, and admitting it) to travel and possibly get others sick, I’d be in Baltimore to be with two of my coaches over the next two days.  I’d be with a peer group of entrepreneurs, learning from them and with them from my coaches.  I’d learn about building my business, new marketing techniques and creating the mindsets and habits to move more rapidly towards my goals.

I’ll miss the input of my coaches, the learning, the inspiration and the tough questions.  I’ll be able to capture some of the learning and insights in other ways, but , because I’ll be in Indianapolis and not Baltimore, some things will be forever lost.

While I’m confident I’ve made the right decision to stay home for many reasons, I feel a sense of loss.  That sense of loss comes from my understanding of the value of coaching.  I know that without coaches in my life (both formal and informal) I wouldn’t have progressed as far as I have.  And I know clearly that without coaches, my future wouldn’t be as bright as it is.

Here are some absolute truths about coaching:

  • One of the fastest ways to become better at anything is with the help of a skilled coach. 
  • One of the of similarities of all high achievers in any area of life is that they have coaches.
  • The best coaches help us become our best – stretching us beyond what we thought possible.
  • The best coaches help us use our strengths and our weaknesses to reach our goals.
  • If you are serious about achieving at higher levels – as a leader or in any area of your life – you must consider coaching.

I’ll miss some coaching over the next couple of days, and I yet as I am thinking about what I’m missing I am sharpening my awareness of the value and importance of it.

And We Are All Coaches

I’m hoping the previous paragraphs invite you to think about the coaching you receive, or perhaps need to receive.  But as leaders we need to recognize that we can do all of these thigs for others too – because as leaders we have the great opportunity to be coaches of others – to help them find and unleash their potential, reach their goals and more.

It is from these dual realities that we have created a very special event on March 16.  This event, a live streaming video will be hosted at RemarkableTV.com, is titled, Coach and Be Coached – Coaching to Achieve Remarkable Performance – for Others and Yourself!

We will be making a formal complete announcement of this event in the next few days, including more on our guests, sponsors and all of the great reasons you will want to attend.  But you can register now – and be among the first of our VIP guests.

Why am I telling you now, when the site isn’t as functional and pretty as it will be?  In part because of a lesson I’m continuing to learn from my coaches….  to implement, and execute… to not always wait until things are perfect.

Depending on when you read this, the site might be much closer to perfect than it is right now.  Either way, you can register now.  I promise you you will benefit both as a coach and as someone who can be coached.  (If you are on Facebook, you can also learn more on the Facebook Event page).

I hope you will register now and join us on March 16 starting at 11 am ET.

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Don’t Just Stand There, Make a Difference

I’ve been writing and telling people for a long time that we can all be leaders and that the exciting fact is that leaders can make a difference in the world.  Who wouldn’t want to make a difference in the world?

While I still believe everything in the last paragraph with my whole heart, there’s an important missing piece.   I remember a particular episode of the CBS show Undercover Boss.  In this episode the CEO of 711 went undercover in his organization.  One of the people he worked with was Igor, a delivery man who delivered products to 711 stores in the Dallas area overnight.  As I watched this portion of the show, and listened to Igor talk about why he was optimistic and why it made a difference for him and those he delivered products to, I heard my father’s words, said to me more times than I could count.

Don’t just stand there, do something.

And it is in the intersection of Igor, the immigrant delivery man and Phil, my Dad, that I got the missing piece of my message.

People do want to make a difference.

And while they may not see themselves as leaders (yet), or capable of being great leaders, they think making a difference takes big actions.   I am reminded, and therefore am reminding you now, that we make a difference by doing something.

We don’t make a difference with one grand gesture or with one stunning idea, but with daily actions on our life’s path.

We don’t become successful leaders from one workshop, one new habit or one great coaching conversation; we become a better leader from any and all of those things strung together over time – with one action at a time.

What you do today may be small, or seem insignificant to you.  Do not let that deter you.

You can be a Remarkable Leader.  The capacity and potential is inside of you.  It all starts by doing something.  Taking an action.  Making a difference.  One day at a time.

Worry less about the big things, focus on doing the little things consistently with a humble positive expectation.  In other words to modify my Dad’s admonition,

Don’t just stand there, make a difference.

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Go Givers Sell More

This week’s Resource Recommendation – Go Givers Sell More by Bob Burg and John David Mann

In December 2007, I reviewed a business parable called The Go-Giver.

Go Givers Sell MoreI’ve known for more than a year that a sequel was coming, titled Go-Givers Sell More. The book has just been published, and I just received a copy. I was in-the-know about the title, but not clear on the content. This book isn’t a sequel, in that it extends the story of the first book. And it isn’t a story at all.

Rather, it is a tightly written book full of great advice, counsel and approaches that take the concepts of The Go-Giver and cast them into the world of sales.

The premise of the initial book, “Shifting your focus from getting to giving is not only a very nice way to live life and conduct business, but a very profitable one as well” is expanded and made even more practical for anyone who sells (which is all of us, by the way).

Each chapter is short and could be read as a standalone piece. These chapters are categorized into “The Five Laws of Stratospheric Success,” which are:

  • The Law of Value
  • The Law of Compensation
  • The Law of Influence
  • The Law of Authenticity
  • The Law of Receptivity

This categorization makes sense and ties this volume back to the initial book as well.

I have not yet read the entire book, as I just received my copy last night. However, I have read more than enough to recommend it whole-heartedly, and I can say with confidence that before you read this, I will have completed it.

With any book in a series the first question most people ask is, “Do I need to read the first to gain value from the second?” While a valid question, this book ties the two together without making any assumptions that you have read the first. Perhaps you were aware of The Go-Giver but aren’t a fan of the parable/novel format. If so, I strongly encourage you to read this; the content is excellent and written in a format more useful for you.

On the other hand, if you like the parable approach and haven’t read the first one, I recommend you buy not just this book, but The Go-Giver as well. I will likely go back and re-read it after finishing this wonderful little book.

Learn More and purchase at Amazon

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Leadership Lessons from Olympic Athletes

I love the Olympics.

I love the athleticism and the story lines and the preparation and the inspiring moments and the psychology and the history … and so much more.

Olympic TorchAs I’ve talked with people during the Games, I’ve found that even people who generally aren’t sports fans usually can find something to be interested in during the Olympics (winter and/or summer).

However, whether you’re a sports fan or not, there are valuable lessons to be learned when you view the efforts and results of these amazing athletes from the perspective of leadership and peak performance.

And so, that is my focus in this article – viewing the efforts of these athletes through the lens of leadership. They are achieving and performing at the peak of their potential. Isn’t that what you want for yourself and your team?

Here are five important lessons you can take from the Olympics and apply immediately (and for the rest of your life) to your work as a leader.

They keep score. In recent blog post I wrote about how the Olympics reminds me of the importance of measuring and keeping track, but let me keep it simple here. Olympic athletes know how they are doing all the time. They have ways to measure both actual results and measurable progress throughout the process. They can correlate their progress and success because they keep score in precise and strategic ways. If you want greater performance, you must follow their lead. How do you keep score? How happy are with your recent results?

They have clear goals. Every Olympian has different goals. For some, their goal was reached by making it to the Games, and everything on site is a bonus. Some are chasing their first medal – no matter the color, for others nothing short of Gold may satisfy them. Regardless, all have a focus on achieving their personal best effort when it matters most. This isn’t a comment about which is the best goal – I can’t judge theirs any more than I could or would judge yours. The point here is the clarity of the goal. Are your goals as clear as theirs?

They practice. And practice. And practice. They don’t expect world class performance after only putting in occasional efforts in training. They know to be their best they must practice in focused and strategic ways to reach their goals. I’m guessing you are shaking your head in agreement right now, perhaps even wondering why I would make such an obvious point. The point isn’t so obvious if you are using these athletes as your mentor for your own peak performance. Do you practice like a champion? Are you as diligent and consistent in learning the skills that will help you succeed as they are?

They play to the end. World class athletes know where the finish line is, and they play until they get to it. If they fall during their skating program, they get back up. If they are injured, they keep going (if at all possible). Even if their chance of reaching their goal is lost, they continue. How often do you hear them in interviews blaming others, the judges or the conditions? Not nearly as often as you probably hear people in your office talking about that problem being “Engineering’s fault”, or because of “the economy” or some other exterior factor. Olympic athletes play to the end, remaining singularly focused on their endeavor. Do you?

They have coaches. Have you ever heard of a world class athlete not having a coach? Even if you’ve never played a sport, you likely recognize the importance of coaching at all levels of athletic performance – even when the athletes are the best in the world. Is there something that makes our work as leader so different that we don’t need coaching? If you want to improve and haven’t made the progress you need or hope for, do you have a coach? If not, this is the single thing you can do (and provide for those you lead) to create significant improvement. Do you have a coach?

Your work likely doesn’t include skis, skates, snowboards or brooms, but these lessons should speak clearly to you. If you are serious in creating greater performance for yourself and those you lead, read this list again, asking yourself, how will I apply these starting today?

There are immediate actions you can take, and taking them is important. It is however your dedication to these principles and their application over time that will help you make Olympic-sized improvements in your results.

Potential Pointer: Leaders and high performers can learn a great deal from Olympic athletes. Choose to watch the Olympics (and all world class events) for more than their results, but also for the lessons you can apply to your own work and life.

Remarkable leaders strive to be the best – for themselves, those they lead, and the organizations and communities they serve. They know they must move towards that ideal with the zeal of an Olympic athlete. Many leaders from around the world are consciously learning and building their skills through our Remarkable Master Classes. We’ve created a series of learning opportunities that are both affordable and lasting. Check them out.

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Who is Responsible, Really?

Before I begin, let me give you a Rant Alert.

When I’m done you may feel like I’ve been ranting a bit.  I’m not going to apologize for it, I feel strongly about the point I am about to make.  I’ve decided after thinking about this post for two days, that perhaps a rant is the best way to make this point.

A few days ago I received an email from SmallerIndiana (a great Indiana networking site) which posed a question:  Can Government Programs Solve Obesity in America? 

I readily admit that at that moment, I didn’t click through to read more about what was being said (here is the link to the full forum post and all of the conversation it has spawned).  Why?  Because the question at the root appalled me.  Obesity may have many factors, but in the end, except for people with specific medical conditions, it is about calories in and calories out.  And it doesn’t matter what program you have, it all comes down to how much people eat, and how much people exercise.

After reading the forum post I do have a broader understanding of what the point of the question was, but it doesn’t change my fundamental point.  When we look externally to solve our problem, we absolve ourselves of responsibility. (In fact, inside the forum post there is some ideas that point to my point as well – taking personal responsibility.) From this “Government programs” question it isn’t too far of a reach to points like….  “I’ll get skinny when there is a government program to help me” , or “It’s the government’s fault we have an obesity problem.”

To which I say;  calories in and calories out, fundamentally (except in some unique situations) is a personal responsibility and is 100% in my control.

I also received an update email from the Wall Street Journal with the subject line:  Georgian “Olympic Committee Blames the Track, Not the Athlete, in Fatal Luge Crash”. The short report reads in full:

News Alert

from The Wall Street Journal

In its strongest condemnation yet of the horrific accident that killed 21-year-old Georgian luger Nodar Kumaritashvili hours before the opening of the Winter Olympics, the Georgian Olympic Committee on Thursday blamed the track, not the athlete.

“I exclude the possibility that Nodar was not experienced enough,” committee chief Giorgi Natsvlishlili said in televised comments. “From my point of view the track was at fault.” (italics mine)

Mr. Kumaritashvili died in a training accident when he lost control of his luge on the final turn of the track at the Whistler Sliding Center, the world’s fastest, and hit a steel support at 145 kilometers per hour.

I was saddened by the death of Mr. Kumaritashvili and it is indeed a tragedy, and what I am about to say is not about him, but about the epidemic of blaming others.  Here is what I learned in my research after reading that email:

  • Not counting practice runs, there were 264 singles luge runs during competition this week (men and women).
  • There was a World Cup event on this course recently (the deceased didn’t participate) and I do not know how many runs there were, but I believe it to be more than 264 runs in competition.
  • There were training runs in November (Mr. Kumaritashvili had 9 runs).  I have no way of knowing the total number of runs made here.
  • The course is super fast – considered the fastest in the world.
  • The course for men was shortened to the women’s starting point after the accident (but this wasn’t the case for the practice runs, the World Cup event or the training runs in November).

Here is my point:  If many others over many runs haven’t had the results of  Mr. Kumaritashvili, how can it be the track’s fault? And even if Mr. Kumaritashvili was experienced enough, does that exclude him from making a mistake?  

Notice I am not saying it isn’t a fast track or perhaps a dangerous track (I am clearly not expert in this area).  What I am saying is that Mr. Kumaritashvili has some responsibility for the result – if not most all the responsibility).  To place blame others/The Olympic Committee, the track, etc. is to deflect us from the truth of our personal responsibility.

This post may have offended you, if so, so be it.

In neither situation am I saying that outside influences can’t help, perhaps they can.  Are there things other can do to support people with their weight issues?  Of course.  Are there things that could be done at the luge track?  Yes, and it appears they were done.

None of this changes the ultimate responsibility for our actions – and taking responsibility for what we can control. 

If I weight more than I want to (7 pounds, thank you), it is no one’s fault but mine.  If someone is afraid the track is to dangerous, don’t get on the sled (I know, but it is the Olympics — but I wanted that piece of pie too!)

Whew.

The lesson for us as individuals and leaders is clear (to me at least).  If we want to help others be responsible and accountable, we must be that for ourselves first.  And perhaps the first step in that personal journey is to stop buying into the blame and shifting accountability we hear from others; and I have shared but two quick examples – they are everywhere.

Here is your leadership activity for today.

Look at something that isn’t working for you.  Determine what part of that outcome is 100% within your control.  And make the necessary change that you can make to change the outcome.  Right now.

You will get there one step at a time.  And each step you take will put you one step closer to successfully helping others take responsibility and accountability.

It may not mean life or death, but it has everything to do with your ultimate success.

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