We are all served by being able to ask powerful questions. They help us build relationships, gain perspectives, learn things, solve problems, and coach others, among other things. Before we can ask great questions though, we must have great questions to ask! Here is a short list of short questions from my question collection. Use them to get better results.

My Favorites

Here are my favorite four-word questions and why each one is so valuable and powerful.

  • What do you think? This is a question of humility and learning. It gives someone space and permission to share their thoughts about whatever relates to the overall conversation. This versatile question will serve you multiple times a day.
  • How do you feel? This is the cousin to the question above. For some people, asking this is a more effective way of asking the “think” question. It is, in fact, an opportunity for people to share their emotions about the topic at hand. This valuable question helps build trust and show empathy, but only if we listen intently after asking.
  • How are you doing? This is a great question to check in with people. Use it as more than a throwaway greeting. Instead, really find out how people are faring in their activities – mentally, physically, and emotionally.
  • How are we doing? I love this question. It allows for both receiving feedback, as well as creating a chance to consider process improvements. It can also lead to celebration, encouragement, and increased momentum.
  • What could we change? This is a safe change question because it is an opening, focused on brainstorming. Less direct than the next one, it leaves room for responses that things may not need to change at all.
  • What would you change? Such an empowering question! I sometimes add a couple words, “If you were me, what would you change?” This is a full-on expectation for people to share their ideas and suggestions.
  • How can I help? I love this question on a personal level, but as a leader it becomes even more powerful. When asked in earnest, this question can bridge a gap in power. It shows people we are aware and care, improving the working relationship, and perhaps even the results.

Use with Care

Like most tools, these powerful questions are best used at the right time, for the right purpose, and with skill. I share them here for you to consider, use, and practice – both at work and in your personal life.

Kevin Eikenberry is a recognized world expert on leadership development and learning and is the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group. He has spent over 30 years helping organizations across North America, and leaders from around the world, on leadership, learning, teams and teamwork, communication and more.

Twice he has been named by Inc.com as one of the Top 100 Leadership and Management Experts in the World and 100 Great Leadership Speakers for Your Next Conference. The American Management Association named him a “Leaders to Watch” and he has been twice named as one of the World's Top 30 Leadership Professionals by Global Gurus. Top Sales World has named him a Top Sales & Marketing Influencer several times, and his blog has been named on many “best of” lists. LeadersHum has named him one of the 200 Biggest Voices in Leadership in 2023.

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