Is leadership about you?

That may sound like a strange question, but it’s one worth asking. And the answer, like so many things in leadership, is both yes and no.

Let me explain.

Why Leadership Is About You

Who you are and how you lead absolutely matter. The way you show up each day, the choices you make, and the behaviors you model all shape your team’s success.

If you bring energy, clarity, and purpose, your team feels it. If you show up distracted, inconsistent, or disengaged, your team feels that too. Your leadership leaves a mark — for better or worse.

In that sense, leadership is about you.

Why Leadership Isn’t About You

But here’s the paradox. At the end of the day, leadership is about outcomes. Leadership exists to help a group achieve something that hasn’t happened yet. It’s about moving toward results that matter.

And those results don’t happen because of you alone. They happen because of others. As leaders, we don’t do all the work ourselves. We guide, coach, support, and inspire so the team can achieve together.

That means leadership isn’t about us. We’re not the main characters in this story. We are the means to an important end.

The Leadership Paradox

So how do we hold this tension? Leadership is not about us, and yet who we are matters deeply.

The answer lies in self-awareness and growth. If you want to lead effectively:

  • Work on your skills.
  • Understand your strengths and weaknesses.
  • Pay attention to your tendencies and how they impact others.
  • Keep refining behaviors that are worth following.

The more aware and intentional we are, the more we can help our groups reach valuable outcomes with and through others.

So here’s the bottom line: Leadership isn’t about you. And yet, who you are and how you lead makes all the difference in the results your team will achieve.

That’s the paradox of leadership — and it’s where the growth happens.

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Kevin Eikenberry is a recognized world expert on leadership development and learning and is the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group. He has spent over 30 years helping organizations across North America, and leaders from around the world, on leadership, learning, teams and teamwork, communication and more.

Twice he has been named by Inc.com as one of the Top 100 Leadership and Management Experts in the World and 100 Great Leadership Speakers for Your Next Conference. The American Management Association named him a “Leaders to Watch” and he has been twice named as one of the World's Top 30 Leadership Professionals by Global Gurus. Top Sales World has named him a Top Sales & Marketing Influencer several times, and his blog has been named on many “best of” lists. LeadersHum has named him one of the 200 Biggest Voices in Leadership in 2023.

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