In an airport yesterday I glanced down and saw the title of a book about the legendary comedian Red Skelton. It was titled, the Mask Behind the Mask.
I had two immediate thoughts – my Dad would have loved that book, and I don’t know about Red, but that title applies to many of us, all day long.
There are certainly masks that we all wear, and so this post could go a number of different directions. But I want to talk about leaders, and one particular mask that we wear – one that I see (and see through) all the time.
The mask is the “I’m committed to being a more effective leader” mask. Leaders believe this is the politically correct mask to wear. So they . . .
- Say the right things when they attend training that is provided (but don’t seek out learning opportunities for themselves)
- Sign their people up for training (if they ask or if it is convenient and comfortably within the budget).
- Buy the latest book, and maybe even read it (but don’t put any of the ideas to work, beyond cocktail party talk).
The mask they wear is one of the Leader who wants to improve and build their skills.
Too many of these people (you?) are impostors.
The number one role of a leader is to be a learner, because from the habit, discipline and skill of learning flows all improvement, capacity, synergy and growth required by successful leaders in today’s world.
And if we wear the masks I’ve described, rather than truly being a learner, focused on becoming more effective, more productive – in general doing what it takes to reach our potential and make a bigger difference in the world around us – we’ll continue to be impostors.
We’ll be playing at leadership, playing a role, thinking that is what leadership is.
Playing that role and wearing those masks will, sadly, keep you in the majority.
Stripping off the mask, and becoming real and genuine about your desire to reach your leadership potential through new experiences, and learning, and practice and coaching and self awareness and growth, may put you in the minority. It will require some effort and investment on your part.
But the rewards will be greater satisfaction, greater personal meaning in your work, more successful teams, more productive, happy and successful followers, and a knowing that you are making a difference in the world.
Making those choices and choosing that path will make you a real leader, regardless of your current skills or experience. The path of the leading learner is the true path of leadership.
It is time to drop the mask, and stop being a leadership impostor.
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Great post Kevin. We don’t drift to excellence and no one becomes great at anything without coaching. Thanks for your words of wisdom.
Happy 2010 to you and yours,
Michael
Excellent post, Kevin. To me, leadership skill development is about personal growth, and personal growth is not going to happen if we put our energy into maintaining our masks. If we drop our masks, we’re becoming real and authentic, which allows us to honestly acknowledge our strengths and address our limitations.
Best wishes to the “enlightened leader” in you, Kevin!
Ed Oakley
http://www.enleadership.com/blog
Ok, here is the paradox: If a person has this mask on, and they believe that they are an effective leader because of what they SAY rather than what they DO, would they be able to to look into the mirror and see that they have the mask on?
Clichés are cliché for a reason: “Your actions are louder than your words.”
Scott – Paradox, perhaps. But if we don’t call it like we see it, there is no chance they might see a different reflection in the mirror.
Kevin 🙂
Did you read the book?
Kev,
Tremendous insights into “transparency”. It is an investment of time, will, and ego BUT as you noted, the rewards are significant. When I have failed in the past at this, I have observed that I gave up before my task of “self exposure” was complete.
Thanks for the reminder!
Dan Waldschmidt
Mark – no I didn’t, but I’ll bet I’d like it!
Dan – you are most welcome – we all need the reminder. Writing it reminded me big time!
Wise words, Kevin! I couldn’t agree more when you said that one of the greatest roles of a leader is to be a learner. The challenge, of course, is to continually do things that cause us to learn and grow such as embracing new experiences and trying new strategies.