Giving feedback can be difficult, especially when it’s to a friend who you’re now managing, or to an older colleague, or even a colleague that you’ve never had this sort of relationship with before. So in this episode of Remarkable TV, I’m sharing the biggest secret to giving better feedback. Check it out here.
When you let the other person speak first, you allow them to actively participate in the feedback conversation, giving a better chance of success – both in making sure the feedback is positively received and that it is actually used.
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And now I’d love to hear from you…
What is one thing you can implement today to start giving better feedback immediately? Leave a comment below and until next time, remember…
You are Remarkable!
liked it. smart. Might I suggest you get a microphone for better sound quality?
Mike – Thanks! That isn’t the first time we have received that feedback. We have several more completed, but will be adding a mike moving forward.
Kevin 🙂
Good lesson…and very valuable when considering the feedback process for after action reviews and tactical debriefings. Thanks!
Just curious…what do you suggest when the person ‘s perception is way off, e.g. they think they aced it when you think they didn’t. How do you help them adjust their perception?
Liz – this is a great question! the best way to start is by asking them questions. “What makes it seem so successful to you?” Why do you feel like you ‘Aced’ it?” types of question are a good starting point. You are trying to understand their perspective first before trying to give them a different one; plus by asking them first you are engaging them in conversation and reducing (if only a little) the amount of resistance they might have to your perspective. then share your perspective with data and/or observations. this isn’t the time to deal in vague generalities of judgments. Give people data to help them see the world differently. I hope that is a good start for you Liz!